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David Silva Smith's avatar

Travis, your vulnerability is a strength. Thanks for the reminder that even the most driven of us need to step back and recalibrate sometimes.

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Lois Mummaw's avatar

Hey Travis—Thank you for sharing your journey. I can relate to your post. I, too, was/am a high achiever. When I checked into treatment in 1987, I was encouraged to listen more than I talked. Sobriety was new to me and my life was a mess. So I listened and learned. After a few months, I realized I could be helpful to those who were brand new so I started sharing a bit more of my story. After a few years and lots of accomplishments—things I could have never done as a drunk—I started to have depression combined with these overwhelming feelings of inadequacy (or maybe I had those feelings all along but I was just so busy, I didn’t take the time to acknowledge them). So I started questioning myself—how can I share my experience with others if I can’t even follow my own advice? It was pointed out to me by my therapist and others whom I trusted that not only was I a high-achiever, I was a also a perfectionist—which is the destructive flip-side of the high achiever coin. I am re-reading this book for the 7th time “The Spirituality of Imperfection” by Ernest Kurtz and Katherine Ketcham. I am

37 years sober and still need to be reminded frequently that all of which I experience and my reactions to those experiences are what makes me human.

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