Using Artificial Intelligence to Generate Your New Year's Resolutions, Complete a 360 Review, & Change Your Life - A Step By Step Guide.

Here's how I evaluate my performance, identify areas for improvement, & change my habits to hit my goals.

This has been one of the most impactful processes that I have used to improve my mental heath, build deeper relationships, and accomplish my personal and professional goals.

This is a free step by step guide on how to complete a 360 degree review of your strengths and weaknesses and use the power of artificial intelligence to synthesize the data to produce an actionable list of 10 New Year’s resolutions.

These resolutions are then turned into 5 simple tasks/habits to improve your life.

When implemented, these simple daily habits will dramatically improve your life, happiness, and success. These habits compound on each other and within a few months you will see a dramatic improvement on every measurement that you set out to improve. I guarantee it.

Here are the steps that I take and the templates that you can use to improve your life.

1. Identify the 10-50 people in your life that you trust to give you feedback about your performance over the past year. These can be friends, family, co-workers, investors, partners - anyone that you have a relationship with that can help you improve. Make sure to include a few people that may be critical of you.

2. Call, email, or send a text message to each of them asking if they would be willing to participate in an anonymous 360 review of your performance by completing a short 8 question form. Only select people that take it seriously and are willing to help. Some people will think it’s silly. That’s okay, ignore them.

   1. Note: Some people may not want to do an online form, that’s fine, ask them the questions over the phone or in person and document their responses in the spreadsheet yourself.

3. Access this spreadsheet and “Make a copy” by going to “File” > “Make a Copy”.

   

4. To access the form, just go to: Tools > Manage Form > Edit Form.

   

5. Next, send each of the people that agreed to review you a copy of the form that you just created. (Steps below)

   1. Follow these 4 steps to copy a link to the form and send it:

      

6. The simple questions on the form are:

   1. What is your relationship to me? 

   2. In your opinion, have I improved in 2023 from 2022? How so?*

   3. What am I doing well?*

   4. What could I be doing better?*

   5. What do you need from me?

   6. What should I stop doing?

   7. What should I start doing or do more of?

   8. Any other feedback you have for me?

7. Tip: Don’t look at the responses as they come in. Wait until everyone has responded. This keeps it more anonymous.

8. Follow up with everyone 2 days later: Ask them if they have completed the form? Remind them how important it is to you and that you appreciate their help.

9. Optional: follow up again in a couple days. (People forget!)

First, Why Are We Doing This? What is the Goal? What is NOT the goal?

The goal of this process is to find areas where we can improve ourselves so that we can be happier, healthier, more productive, have better relationships with our friends, and build better relationships with our family.

I’m going to tell you right now, you’re going to hear a LOT of great things about yourself and that feels amazing. But this is NOT the goal and we must make sure to not get high on our own supply.

Remember, these are mostly our friends and family that are giving us feedback. They will be biased towards saying nice and positive things about us - sometimes - even when they don’t believe them.

You must constantly guard against inflating your ego and self importance. Move past the praise and look for the areas that you can improve.

And if you selected the right people for this, you’re also going to hear some really critical and negative things about your behavior. This is the goal.

But when you read the criticism, the goal is not to shatter your self esteem, get you down in the dumps, or make you think you’re worthless. Far from it!

The simple fact that you are doing this process means that you are in the top 1% of people that are self aware and looking to improve themselves. Do NOT focus on the negative for too long.

Don’t build an enemies list of people that are disloyal to you because of what you read here. Remember, you ASKED for this feedback. You need to use it as fuel to improve, not as a lead anchor around your neck, or worse, lead bullets in your weapon to attack your new enemies. That is NOT the goal of this process.

I’ll share some strategies for how to use the criticism as rocket fuel below.

Time to Review Your Feedback

You can access the feedback in a few ways. If you go back to the form you can see “Summary” and “Individual” feedback. Or you can click “Link to Sheets” if you would like to view it as a spreadsheet.

Steps you can take the read this feedback successfully without becoming defensive:

• Don’t try to guess who gave you the feedback. It doesn’t matter.

• Don’t dwell on on any individual responses. Read the feedback and moveon to the next one. Especially high praise and brutal criticism.

• Instead, look for patterns in the feedback. If something comes up multiple times, give it more weight than things that are only mentioned once. Repeated feedback might be telling you something.

• Remember, you’re never as good as people say you are, and you’re never as bad as your critics say you are. Be leary of high praise and of brutal criticism.

• The biggest thing to look for are criticisms that hit you like a harpoon to the chest. When someone says something critical about you that deeply resonates with what you are feeling about yourself - that is the feedback to focus on. This feedback is aligning with what you know personally and is being validated by multiple outside sources. This is the area where I think you will get the most benefit from focusing on improvement.

Using Artificial Intelligence to Summarize The Feedback

*Security note, you will be uploading information into ChatGPT. This could make people uncomfortable. It doesn’t concern me but if you do have concerns, don’t do it.

Now that you have read all of the feedback individually, it’s time to use Artificial Intelligence to summarize it and give you the highlights.

1. In the form, click the button “View in Sheets”

2. Each column will represent everyone’s answers to each of the questions.

3. Go to Chat GPT https://chat.openai.com/

4. IMPORTANT NOTE: Make sure to do ALL of this within one chat window in Chat GPT. Don’t create new chat windows.

5. Paste this prompt into Chat GPT:

   1. I am completing a 360 review of myself and my performance. I have asked friends, family, co-workers and business partners to answer multiple questions about me. Chat GPT, I would like you to work as a counselor to fairly and dispassionately review all of the individual feedback and synthesis it into a 2 to 3 paragraph summary about each of the questions that I asked. I would also like you to retain all of this information so that I can ask you questions about it. After this chat, I will be copy and pasting the data from the spreadsheet one question at a time. The first cell will be the question that I asked, then the following cells will be the individual responses from each of the people that I asked to fill out the form. Please confirm that you understand and then let me know that you are ready for me to copy and paste the information into the next chat dialog box.

6. From the Google Sheet that contains all the answers to the questions, copy and paste the question and all of the answers to the questions directly into Chat GPT and submit them. Remember to grab ALL the feedback to that question. Not just one at a time. B1:B25 for instance.

7. Read the result in Chat GPT.

   1. Authors note: Wasn’t the response insanely accurate???? It blew me away at how well Chat GPT was able to summarize me based off the aggregate information from my friends and family.

8. Review the information from Chat GPT. Then copy and paste that information into a new cell at the bottom of your spreadsheet. This will give you a summary of each question and response within the Google Sheet.

9. Next, Write this prompt to Chat GPT to get ready for the answers to the next question:

   1. Thank you. That was perfect. Are you ready to do the the exact same thing for the next question? I will past it after you confirm you are ready.

10. Paste in the next question and all the responses.

11. Read the summary, then copy and paste it into the end of your spreadsheet.

12. Repeat this same process for all of the remaining questions.

Now let’s get a summary of how you are doing

Use this prompt in Chat GPT within the same conversation window that contains all this information:

• Chat GPT prompt:

  • Ignore all of the summaries that you have made. Only look at the information that I have copied and pasted directly from my 360 review. Look at all of them and synthesis all of the information and create a 6 paragraph summary and analysis of how I am doing and where I can improve. When possible, use direct quotes from some of the feedback that I was given. When possible, use real examples from the information I was given. Focus on the things that were mentioned multiple times as recurring themes.

  • This will generate a very helpful short summary of all the information in narrative form. You may want to save this somewhere.

Using Chat GPT and AI to Generate Your 10 New Year’s Resolutions

Using all the information that Chat GPT now has, use this prompt to generate your 10 New Year’s Resolutions:

• Chat GPT Prompt:

  • Based off of all of the information contained within this entire chat, I wish to generate a bulleted list of 10 New Year’s resolutions. Also include a short paragraph about each that emphasizes why this is important using specific examples from above, direct quotes when possible, and explain how these resolutions will improve my life. Make sure to use ALL of the information from all of the chats above and all of the feedback that was provided.

• Save these New Year’s resolutions for yourself.

• Time for self reflection based on this data:

  1. Which resolutions do you agree with?

  2. Which resolutions do you disagree with?

  3. Do you wish to change or modify any of the resolutions or add any new ones?

  4. You can change and modify the New Year’s Resolutions. Simply reply to Chat GPT with the new information and you can edit and modify them to create the final version that you prefer.

Turning your 10 New Year’s Resolutions Into Actionable Habits

New Year’s resolutions and Goals are kinda BS in my mind. They are too lofty and it’s too hard to see the results every single day. What is much better is generating daily/weekly/monthly habits. As they say: “Show Me Your Habits and I'll Show You Your Future.”

So now that we have the lofty “New Year’s Resolutions list” - Let’s generate the daily habits that can get you there. Here is how we use Chat GPT to do that.

• Prompt for Chat GPT:

  • Based off of this new year’s resolution list, I would like you to generate daily/weekly habits that I can develop that will align with my goals. I want your help in changing my daily practices so that they align with my long term goals. Please examine my new year’s resolutions, and all the feedback from all of the chats above and create 5 habits that I should start immediately that will help me to achieve my lifelong goals.

REMEMBER!

You do NOT need to accept or agree with all the feedback that is given to you. It is important that you process and filter the feedback based upon your own goals and values. Not all feedback is created equally. Don’t live your life based off of someone else’s ideas of what you should be doing. This is to be used as a tool to recognize blind spots and opportunities for you to expand your thinking. You must always process this information through your own filter.

That’s it! Here is what you have accomplished with this process:

1. You have solicited feedback from your loved ones which shows them you care about their feedback and value them.

2. You have gained important insights about what you did well and what you can improve on.

3. You have thought hard and deeply about what you want to accomplish over the next year.

4. You have turned your new year’s resolutions into actionable habit’s that you can implement tomorrow and that can change and improve your life overtime.

If you enjoyed this process or got any value out of it, I would greatly appreciate if you would let me know by replying to this email, sharing it with a friend, or posting it to social media. It would mean a lot to me.

Thank you and here is to a great new year!

With Love from Travis Stoliker.